I want to be myself. Everyone who wants to improve himself must encounter these problems.
In order to be a good person in everyone’s eyes, always put a smile in front of people,
Even if you are occasionally offended or offended, act as if nothing happened.
Does this count as being yourself?
In order to let the other partner feel his love, he changed his living habits to cooperate with each other. He would have hurt people when he quarreled, but he learned to deal with emotions in order to maintain his feelings.
Does that count as being yourself?
In the past, I’ve always had to worry about these questions.
To change yourself for others, when you are in a good mood, you feel noble, and when you are in a bad mood, you feel very aggrieved.
Be bold to be yourself for your own preferences, feel refreshed when you are in a good mood, and feel selfish when you are lonely.
After countless struggles and pains, one day I realized,
If you are stuck on this, there is no way to solve the problem.
In fact, I have been asking myself the wrong question all the time.
What I should be asking myself is “What kind of person do I want to be?”
A man cannot be Tom Hank and Leonardo at the same time.
Emotionally speaking, do I want to be a big man, or a new good man?
How do I choose to manage my relationship?
Most of the traditional oriental men belong to the type of chauvinism, and he has the final say in family affairs.
Sometimes very stubborn, he will stick to what he thinks is right.
Male chauvinism has the charm of a big man, and of course it is also his responsibility and obligation.
He needs to carry the economy and family on his shoulders, and that is the path he has chosen.
The same is true for women, which type of woman you choose to be, what kind of feelings you will have.
It doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad, it’s just a choice.
So what are social values?
The trend of the media, the pressure of discussion, and the accusations of relatives and friends are all.
If a person’s position is clear, we will not be afraid of the criticism that social values give us.
Because social values themselves are not constant, but constantly changing.
When you’re a big woman today, they’ll say you don’t understand ethics,
When you are an equal today, they will say you have no personality,
When you are a little woman today, they will say you have no backbone.
Just like this:
To go a little deeper into the matter of “what kind of person do I want to be”, it’s actually about your “personal brand management”.
Mercedes-Benz will not compare with Toyota which car sells cheaper, and Toyota will not compare with Mercedes-Benz which car is more dignified and domineering.
Why?
Because they all know where their brand is positioned, when you know your direction,
It’s easy to know who you’re going to get along with and who’s a good fit for you to go with.
One of the most fearful things on the road of being oneself is wandering.
For a while, I have to take the line of women in the new era, and now I have to dress up as a traditional woman.
This is like when Hermès started to sell at a discount, and Coach suddenly had to go through hunger marketing and queue up to draw lots to buy.
Such wandering not only confuses others, but also destroys the hard work of a personal brand.
And the person who likes you will be even more puzzled. One second you seem to be a good fit for him, but the next second you change your mind.
A lot of emptiness actually comes from this.
Because when you don’t know “what kind of you is the best version of yourself”, your emotions are easily provoked, and others can easily influence you.
However, I don’t think this is a big problem for you. Your choice has already been revealed between the lines. All you need is firm confidence.
